I recently reached out.......again......to a lover (that sounds weird...let's say, a guy a had a great couple nights with) He lives in a different state so distance is normal.....He didn't respond a few months ago....but I gave him the benefit of the doubt and I reach out again.
Look what I said
"Hey _________! I can't believe it's been so long. That was fun! How are you??"
Well, I feel like sh*t.
But let's just think about that for a second....... No response means:
"Yes, I received your message and no I want nothing to do with you..But I'm not just going to tell you that; I am going to make you wait and wonder why I am not responding until you realize that I really want absolutely nothing to do with you because I'm not even going to take the time to acknowledge your existence"
((excuse me while I ice my wounds))
Honestly guys, what are your thoughts here?
I mean I understand where they are coming from:
"I'm going to pretend I didn't just hear my phone go off....or feel the vibration.....twice........and maybe we can pretend it just never happened at all!!"
"I'm sorry; maybe I can just pretend it didn't happen at all. You're definitely going to get the hint because I never want to talk to you again in my life."
Meanwhile, I spend the rest of the day/week wondering what I did wrong and how desperate I came off/am coming off and worse...Am I doing that right now? GROSS!!!! STOP! It's awful. I'm getting nauseated just thinking about it.
I have tried semi ghosting:
Someone texts me, I don't want to lead them on so sometimes it's helpful to wait a day or so to respond....
I always respond....it's Respect. Right? Everyone is owed that.
To not respond at all...That's some Mean Girls Sh*t.